tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-53192403390417822682024-03-13T11:25:28.968-07:00The Pieces Fit!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.comBlogger143125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-88203565048550318872019-03-05T10:49:00.001-08:002019-03-05T10:49:06.777-08:00March? Or Is It?Well, it's March! Does it feel like it? Not in the least bit. It's a "balmy" 11 degrees out. Brr! Where are the 30s and 40s when we need 'em?<br />
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This month is full of exciting events. First off, my next physical falls on Pi Day (3/14). Being the geek I am, I find that neat :) Then, the 19th is my FIFTH Autieversary! I can't believe it'll be a whole 5 years since I got the answers I had so desperately sought; the day everything was confirmed and I was given a title to claim as something that so described an integral part of me! I have a few movie dates coming up with my cousin and with two of my bffs (one to the Galleria and the other to Rochester) and my bffe and I are going to go to Erie at some point. On the 28th will be the Autism Services board meeting, and two days after that, it's someone's birthday! ;) I'm taking a long weekend, and my brother and I are talking about going to Cleveland or maybe somewhere a little closer to celebrate!<br />
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Next week, the weather is finally supposed to break. Come on, spring! :D<br />
<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-63272334210960884812018-12-23T06:06:00.002-08:002018-12-23T06:06:23.569-08:00It's That Time Again...The Obligatory Christmas Eve Eve Post! :)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Merry Christmas Eve Eve once again! :) I'm spending this one in beautiful St. Pete Beach, Florida! It's just gorgeous here. Albeit only in the low 50s, I'll take it over the 30s Buffalo is <u>having</u>! I just love the sound of the waves crashing, the birds chirping, and the feeling of the balmy breeze.</div>
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My mom and I flew in to Orlando yesterday, and who did I run into at the airport, but one of my peeps and my supervisor from my relief job! It turns out, my peep was on our flight! We all sat together, and had a really enjoyable flight. We even arrived about 20 minutes early! My mom and I then nommed on a late dinner at Cheddar's, one of my favorite restaurant chains. Their food is exquisite, and VERY reasonably priced, especially considering the rather upscale atmosphere and quality of the food. I got a steak and chicken tenders dinner for only $13! We then stopped at Walmart for some staple food items, and made the approximately 2-hour drive to the condo. Spotify provided us with a nice Christmas soundtrack, and I set up Android Auto on the Kia Optima we rented, to navigate us to our destination.</div>
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We finally were able to crash around 3am. The condo is so nice! I have a lovely view of the ocean from the living room, where I slept on the sofa sleeper, which is quite comfortable! My brother and his girlfriend will be flying in today to arrive at her mom's house. We will all be meeting up later in the week, which I'm looking forward to! I'm excited for the adventures the rest of the trip will bring. This will be a Christmas for the books! :)</div>
<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-74169351068046396302018-09-17T10:29:00.001-07:002018-09-17T10:29:28.304-07:00Positive Changes<p dir="ltr">I've decided that I need to make some changes to my health habits, if I want to feel better, have energy again, and maintain my health. I currently weigh 335lbs, which is a far cry from the 200 I'd like to be. Here's a little of what I'm doing to get started!</p>
<p dir="ltr">Today, I made an unwritten oath to myself to change my eating habits (well, I suppose now that I've said it here, it IS written, after all, lol!). I'm basically going to try to swear off fast food, aside from as an occasional treat. I started the day with two pieces or cinnamon swirl toast with a serving of Nutella, which is much healthier than my usual trip to Tim Hortons. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I then went to Target and picked up a Blender Bottle for my Shakeology shakes...I'm going to be doing a Beach Body 21 day challenge. My brother and his girlfriend have been encouraging me to do it along with them, and have been HUGE supports! I also picked up bananas, vitamins, and more sugar-free drink mix (the kind you squirt into your water bottle). I had a shake and a banana after I got home. For an early afternoon snack, I had carrots with a serving of ranch dressing. My plan is to sort of graze rather than having 3 full meals. This way, I can keep my metabolism moving.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Then came my walk. Albeit rather short compared to how I used to walk, it was still a good workout. I walked for 18 minutes, and .8 of a mile. Not too bad of a start, to get back into the swing of things! I just walked down a development right in my neighborhood, and of course, jammed to some tunes! Easy peasy :)</p>
<p dir="ltr">I'm using a FitBit app to track my progress, at the recommendation of one of my long-time Facebook friends. It's really comprehensive, as you can just search a food, log it, and log your activity as well. I'm liking it so far!</p>
<p dir="ltr">I'd also like to thank everyone who has given me support and kind words thus far. It really means a lot, and is very encouraging! :)</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-33327299198434439022018-07-02T07:28:00.001-07:002018-07-02T07:28:43.163-07:00Summer is Here!<p dir="ltr">It's my favorite time of year: summertime! A year doesn't go by where I'm counting down the days until that 21st day of June :) Well, here it is, the week of the 4th of July!</p>
<p dir="ltr">I'm on a nice, long staycation, as of this past Saturday morning. I was SO excited to go to my brother's to relax and prepare to test drive cars! I tested a Toyota Camry and a Mazda 6, and they were both really nice! I decided which one I want to get once my current lease is up in two months, but more on that, later ;) Saturday was also the Rochester Jazz Fest, which my brother and I decided to go to on a whim. As I always say, the best plans are those made spur-of-the-moment: nothing can put the kabash on them, and they always end up being the best times! Yesterday we both relaxed in the coolness of my brother's central air, and went to Tony's for a dinner of pizza and chicken fingers. Following that, we went to Frosty's for ice cream. It was the perfect weekend.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Today, I woke up around 4:45am, which is quite early for me on a morning I'm off. I had gotten a lot of sleep the day before, so I was ready to get up and grab a snack. I then went to the Lancaster recreation office to get my pool ID, only to discover they only accepted cash (I never carry cash). I went to the bank, and headed back to the office. I'm now good to go for the next two years! I'm going to hit the pool this afternoon :D</p>
<p dir="ltr">So, it's only Monday and I won't be going back to work for an entire week! I'm definitely going to enjoy the time with friends and family, and catch up on my rest. Of course, I'm also going to try and make this week as fun-filled as possible! Hope everyone has a happy 4th!<br>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-87818233657457079602018-05-28T13:10:00.001-07:002018-05-28T13:10:49.794-07:00My Trip to the Antique Store<p dir="ltr">It's a gorgeous day here in Buffalo, NY! It's also rather hot, so I figured I'd get out and do something. I decided to stop by the Eastern Hills Mall, where they have this neat little antique store called "What's in Your Attic?"</p>
<p dir="ltr">As you enter the store, you are flooded with thousands of vintage items of all types. On one shelf sits rings. Another, toys from the 90s. Browsing further, one can see plush characters from the 80s, such as Care Bears and Strawberry Shortcake. </p>
<p dir="ltr">While I browsed, many things caught my eye. I saw some rings I really liked, as well as a little plush Pikachu. There were a couple poseable Care Bears figures from the 80s, complete with that little tuft of hair (to those who were around in the 80s, remember?) Finally, as I was almost finished, there, at the top of a row of shelves, was a little rack of necklaces. I spotted one with one of those Chinese chime balls at the end! I just had to get it.</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you're ever in the Buffalo area and want to check out an awesome store with unique items, "What's in Your Attic?" is your spot! :)</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-45790220009538689942018-04-08T20:52:00.001-07:002018-04-08T20:52:09.632-07:00An Autism Talk<p dir="ltr">I had an amazing experience today. I gave an Autism talk at an autism awareness event!</p>
<p dir="ltr">I traveled to Randolph, NY with a dear friend who invited me to give the talk. She's the Superintendent of the school I was working for last year. I received a call from her last month, saying that someone had asked her if she knew of an autistic adult and advocate, who would be willing to speak at an event. She said that she thought of me right away! So we met halfway, as Randolph is a good almost 2 hours from me in Lancaster. Once we met up, she drove the test of the way to a beautiful church, where the event was to be held. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Once there, I was introduced to the facilitator of the event, who has an autistic son. She was very welcoming! I was introduced to the pastor of the church, as well as a couple of members of the school board. We ate a delicious lunch of pulled pork, egg salad, fruit salad, ambrosia, chips, and a dessert bake (not sure what it was called, lol). The Superintendent had made most of the food, which we all enjoyed!</p>
<p dir="ltr">The first speaker was a therapist who works with the facilitator of the event's son. She talked about the therapy, as well as the traits of autism. Then, the facilitator and her husband talked about the story of their son and his diagnosis. More parents spoke and shared their stories, which were different from each other, but stories that showed how much getting a diagnosis helped make things better for their child. Next, the Superintendent and I were asked to come up. She talked a little bit about her sons who are autistic, and how the identity has been a positive one for them. She went into how support is very important for an autistic person. Then came my turn. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I started by talking about how I had always been a little different. How I did pretty much whatever I wanted to do in preschool, while the rest of the class was doing as they were told. I talked about how school went relatively well and I graduated with a Bachelor's in Social Work. I stated that it wasn't until I was 26 and had already been working in the field that I discovered I may be autistic. I mentioned the blog that started it all, as well as research, and finally, my diagnosis. I wrapped it up by describing my special interests, and the importance of identity-first language.</p>
<p dir="ltr">My speech was well-received! It was completely off the cuff, and came from the heart. I was approached by parents who told me my story gave them hope. People told me that they thought it was awesome that I came to share my story. It was truly an honor to be invited, and I thanked everyone for having me. I met some amazing people with whom I will be keeping in touch! I must say, in the words of Ice Cube, it was a good day :)</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-77559453259375484312018-04-02T12:41:00.001-07:002018-04-02T12:41:51.418-07:00World Autism Acceptance Month Day 2<p dir="ltr">Happy World Autism Acceptance Day! :D</p>
<p dir="ltr">For the second day of Autism Acceptance month, I'd like to talk about some of the things I love about being autistic.</p>
<p dir="ltr">My favorite aspect is my unwavering sense of youth, paired with my childlike sense of wonder. I've always felt younger than my age, and at 35, am just a big kid! :P I cherish things I find fun in. I notice and appreciate the little things that many people gloss over. It doesn't take much to fascinate me.</p>
<p dir="ltr">I also enjoy the fact that I am passionate about the things I love. Take Sonic the Hedgehog and the Android OS, for example. If you know me, these are two topics you probably associate with me very well, lol ;) When I truly enjoy something, I'm all in. Such is why I've become very proficient in working with electronics. I love the problem-solving aspect of it, too. There's just something about that feeling you get when you realize you've fixed something!</p>
<p dir="ltr">Autistics are also a very genuine group of people. I am who I am, and there's no faking it. I wouldn't know how to be someone else if I tried. It's rewarding when you find others who are the same way; there's no guesswork involved. The world needs more people who are true to themselves, and are exactly who they claim to be! It would make for a much more peaceful society.</p>
<p dir="ltr">These are just a few of the traits which I've elaborated on, and that I like about myself. Since autism shapes who I am as an individual, these traits are also character traits of mine! I wouldn't be me if I had been created any other way, and I'll take it! :)</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-36682317826734600912018-03-19T21:52:00.001-07:002018-03-19T21:52:40.536-07:00A Very Happy Aspieversary<p dir="ltr">Yesterday was my Aspieversary, so naturally I wanted to do something special to celebrate! What better than a trip to Rochester, NY with my best friend?</p>
<p dir="ltr">We decided to hit the road at 3pm, so that we'd be ready and hungry for a delicious dinner at The Distillery. This restaurant has about 4 locations in Rochester, and I decided we'd go to the same location I had taken my mom to for her birthday, as I was familiar with that location. Our dinner was spectacular, as I knew it would be. My best friend had chicken fingers, complete with their savory bleu cheese. I opted for chicken parmesan, which is what I had last time, and I knew I couldn't go wrong with (notice the autistic pattern of sticking with what I'm familiar with? 😉) For dessert, I had an incredible chocolate lava cake!</p>
<p dir="ltr">Once we were stuffed, we headed to this neat little shop a couple miles away called Archimage. They are known for New Age type things like crystals and jewelry, as well as gifts and vintage toys. I found a poison ring, which has a little compartment that opens up. These fascinate me, and I have a few of them. This one was amethyst, and I couldn't resist it. I also stumbled upon a silver frog charm, one of those tubes with water and sparkles in it that trickle downwards when you flip it over, and a structure made of metal rings that you can flex into various shapes. My best friend really enjoyed the store as well. We both plan to go back there soon!</p>
<p dir="ltr">Next was the regular trip to the Marketplace Mall. We looked around at a few stores, and decided we had made our day complete. We headed back home, and stopped at Five Below on the way back to my best friend's house. That's one fun store! We had a blast looking at all the interesting trinkets and gadgets.</p>
<p dir="ltr">One exciting thing that happened was a phone call I received during our little excursion. I was invited to speak at an autism event! It will be taking place in a few weeks, and I can't wait :) I will be talking about my experience as an autistic adult and advocate: something I really love to do!</p>
<p dir="ltr">I must say, this was an Aspieversary for the books. My best friend and I enjoyed ourselves, and made the day just as special as I'd hoped for!</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-57803527602696672192018-03-12T23:13:00.001-07:002018-03-12T23:13:10.946-07:00My 4th Aspieversary is Almost Here! <p dir="ltr">Wow...does time ever fly! I can't believe that in less than a week will mark FOUR YEARS since my autism diagnosis! Life in general has had its ups and downs since then, but as of right now, it's going pretty well.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Over these past four years, I've learned a lot about who I am, as well as how to be a better version of myself. While I've discovered which parts of myself I choose to embrace, there have also been a few segments in which I saw a need for improvement, and have thus made changes. For example, my grammar police tendencies. While grammatical errors still stick out like a sore thumb to me, I've learned not to be as blunt about them. I've stumbled across Facebook posts from years back and in hindsight, I realize I could be a real jerk! I now recognize that even though it pains me to see the English language being butchered, it also does more harm than good to hurt someone's feelings over it. I don't know everyone's story; perhaps they have a learning disability which makes it difficult for them to spell or put sentences together. I wouldn't want people to judge me for my disabilities, so why would I want to do the same? Perhaps they didn't receive a quality education. The list goes on. All I know is that if I bite my tongue and just treat the other person with kindness, I feel a lot better!</p>
<p dir="ltr">While this is something I feel I've been getting better at for many years now, I feel I'm continuing to be more open-minded. In the past, I used to be rather cynical and rigid in my thoughts. I had a really hard time seeing things from another person's point of view. Working in human services has helped me to change that a great deal, as I've met many different people from all walks of life, and in a position such as mine, you can't exactly make judgements or give your opinions on how people choose to live. You have to take an objective point of view. It's more helpful. These days, I have friends from all different backgrounds, and who all have various beliefs. In the past, some things were hard for me to wrap my head around, but today, I'm just able to let them go and am willing to accept and respect people for who they are. After all, we can't ALL be exactly the same! I want people to accept me for my unique self, so I must do so in return.</p>
<p dir="ltr">One thing that continues to be a work in progress is the fact that I tend to state my opinions where I know they'll stir the pot. For example: autism parent groups. I'll see something I disagree with, such as a parent talking about wanting a cure, and I immediately get up on my soapbox and start proclaiming why they're wrong. I know where I stand, however I need to learn to express my opinions without coming across so harshly. This only starts arguments, and leads to anger and frustration of both parties. There are ways to word things so that they are productive, and I need to learn to think before I type and use more effective methods of getting my point across. If I want to teach others about autism acceptance, I need to use kindness and educate, rather than throw my thoughts at them!</p>
<p dir="ltr">I'm always working on learning new things and being my best self. Autism shapes who I am, and has given me many meaningful connections over the past several years. In order to be an advocate, I need to be someone who others can learn from...and why not spread kindness at the same time? As I continue to travel the journey called life, I hope to make an impact and leave the world a little bit better where my footprints lie :)<br>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-7612341230805847462017-12-22T15:54:00.001-08:002017-12-22T15:54:41.564-08:00It's Almost Christmas!<p dir="ltr">It's almost Christmas! You could say it's Christmas Eve Eve Eve! Refer to my posts over the past few years and you'll get it ;)</p>
<p dir="ltr">While this Christmas is definitely going to be different, I have a feeling it's going to be a good one. To make a long story short, we won't be spending it at my grandma's house like we have done every other year of my life. See, my grandma is in a rehab facility right now, as she had an operation the day before Thanksgiving. She's making strides, but it's going to be a long road to recovery. We're taking one day at a time.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Life has been going pretty well! I'll have Christmas night off, as well as Thursday of this coming week. It'll give me a chance to recharge, as I've been <u>burning</u> the candle at both ends. I've been working like the busy bee that I am, as well as trying to cram as much fun as I can into the mix :)</p>
<p dir="ltr">Wishing everyone a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! :)</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-68696687083269276712017-10-30T08:11:00.001-07:002017-10-30T08:11:17.839-07:00A Day In The Life Of Autistic Me!<p dir="ltr">To me (an autistic), the world looks very vibrant. I notice the little things that many others may gloss over. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Look at that shiny thing over there! It's captivating :) What's that I smell? Mmmm, fresh-baked pizza from the pizzeria down the street. I reach out to feel every fabric I pass in the clothing store....feels SO good. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I'm now at Best Buy. I walk up to the JBL Pulse 3 speaker I want more than anything, and watch the array of lighting effects eminating from it. I then press the demo button and am pounded with the soothing sounds of booming bass. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I go to TGI Friday's for unlimited appetizers, complete with a Dr. Pepper and my FAVORITE dessert in the whole wide world: a Brownie Obsession. A warm, fudgy brownie, topped with a scoop of vanilla bean ice cream and finished off with caramel, hot fudge, and nuts. I take a bite. It's delectable.</p>
<p dir="ltr">This is a day in my life :) I wouldn't trade it for anything!</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-54497549135318469692017-10-22T05:39:00.001-07:002017-10-22T05:39:08.650-07:00What I've Been Up To<p dir="ltr">A busy bee I continue to be... ;) So "what's new?" you may ask. Well, this, that, and the other thing. No, really...</p>
<p dir="ltr">I've been continuing to work all my jobs, and that has kept me busy enough! This summer was pretty fun, albeit not being one of the warmest. The family and I managed to get out on my brother's new-to-him pontoon boat several times, and that was a blast! We went to Lake Chautauqua for a little day trip, as well as Port Dalhousie at the end of August, and then Lake Oneida at the end of September, for a weekend apiece.  </p>
<p dir="ltr">October has brought with it lovely weather! I think it's been warmer than June was. It's going to be 78 today! Nothing like being treated to summer in late October :)</p>
<p dir="ltr">A little over a week ago, my best friend and I had the pleasure of attending a film event at the Museum of disABILITY history, featuring DJ "Deej" Savarese, an autistic college graduate. He and his mom were there, and it was an awesome opportunity meeting them both! I also felt like I knew the whole room; a few of the Kenmore Crew were there, as well as a Facebook friend and her family, and good friends of my cousin!</p>
<p dir="ltr">Last night, my grandma had my mom's birthday dinner at her house. We gorged ourselves on a delicious pot roast dinner, which my dad prepared and brought over, complete with all the vegetables. My cousin brought a curry dish that she made, which was also delectable. It was a blast playing with my baby cousins, Alana and Gavin! They're really fun kids :)</p>
<p dir="ltr">Well, I'm going to relax for now, as I work from 2-10. Hope everyone has a great day! :)<br><br></p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-10446263935595640902017-08-14T06:24:00.001-07:002017-08-14T06:24:03.913-07:00Time For An Update!!!<p dir="ltr">It has been far too long since I've posted an update! </p>
<p dir="ltr">Looking back, the last major event I had posted about was my new position as a Teacher Aide. Unfortunately, due to financial reasons, I had to give it up. I absolutely loved it, and it was such an honor to work with the kids! I ended up going back to my overnight position at DePaul, and that's been going wonderfully. I also continue to pick up relief shifts at Aspire on Sundays and work Wednesday afternoons at Autism Services.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Despite my having to leave the school as a full-time staff, I do have some good news! Starting this school year, I'm going to be joining the team again as a sub! I can be called to be either a Teacher Aide or Teacher for the day! This position will take place on any Mondays they need me to fill in. It's great to be able to say that I'll be back.</p>
<p dir="ltr">So, I'll be a 4-job girl again soon! A busy bee, as always. Just one more thing before I go: I'm a member of a social network called My Autism Team, which is designed for parents of autistics. I belong in order to provide a firsthand autistic experience, and have been posting a series of entries dedicated to the positives of autism. Here's one I wrote today!</p>
<p dir="ltr">Persistence</p>
<p dir="ltr">Many autistics are driven to complete whatever task they are focused on. This could be one of a number of things: their homework, current project at work, the video game they are presently playing, or just about any task at hand.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Once I get started on something, I like to finish before moving on to anything else. The main reason for this is that if I try to take on multiple projects at once, the ones I'm working on go out the window and forgotten once I pick up the next one. I like to be able to focus on just one thing at a time, and stay in the zone.</p>
<p dir="ltr">For example, if I'm working on something on the computer, let's say, a post like this, I like to be able to sort of shut everything else out and zone in on the current task. This way, I can devote all my energy to it, and ensure that I'm completing a quality piece. I can then go back and edit where needed. Without any external distractions, I can guarantee I can get the job done to my fullest potential.</p>
<p dir="ltr">The best part of knowing I put forth all of my efforts? Taking a step back and looking at the finished product. It's a great, accomplished feeling!<br><br></p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-77840284816002581072017-03-15T11:51:00.001-07:002017-03-15T11:51:19.279-07:00The New Gig and Other Adventures<p dir="ltr">My new job is going great! After a day of signing initial paperwork and working on training modules, I was assigned to a classroom of 6th grade boys. They definitely have their moments, as is to be expected, however I really enjoy working with them and I feel driven to bring out their potential.</p>
<p dir="ltr">The one thing that helped me to establish a connection with the boys right away is my love of video games! Their eyes widened as I told them about some of my favorites. I was impressed by the fact that a few of them were familiar with some of the games from before their time, such as early Sonic (of course) and Spyro the Dragon as well as Crash Bandicoot. The teacher told me that she was glad to see that I had this in common with them, as she didn't know anything about video games, herself.</p>
<p dir="ltr">This has also been an interesting week, because only my second week into my new position, we had not one, but TWO snow days in a row! Even in Buffalo, that's a rare occasion. I've been relaxing and doing what I'm about to get into next, which is upgrade my Galaxy S7 Edge to Nougat!</p>
<p dir="ltr">I discovered yesterday that a Nougat ROM with root had been developed for my device. Happy day! :) It was finally time to flash the new stock system image, and then reroot. Using Odin, I flashed the image. Today, I flashed the engineered boot .tar file which then enabled me to flash Superuser over adb (Android Debugging Bridge). For those of you who aren't geeks, this all basically means that I plugged my phone into my computer and worked some magic by typing in commands ;) Voila...my phone was rooted! I then downloaded the ROM and flashed it using Flashfire. I must say I'm absolutely LOVING it! It runs smoother than it did on Marshmallow, and is debloated, so it doesn't have many of the unnecessary system apps. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Tomorrow, it's back to work for me. After a couple days of relaxation, and a new operating system, I'll be all refreshed and ready to go! I'm looking forward to seeing the kids again and hearing about their snow days. Then I'm off again on Friday as it's a float day, lol! :P I'm also picking up an overnight back at the group home later that night, and I'll get to see my peeps after having been away for a couple weeks. I'm looking forward to seeing them, too :) I can mark this down as a great week!</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-54298969372677758312017-03-07T05:35:00.001-08:002017-03-07T05:35:39.450-08:00A New Journey<p dir="ltr">As I think about what's to come, I have feelings of excitement. I'm about to begin a new journey. Tomorrow I start my position as a Teacher's Aide. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Reflecting on the past two years at the group home, I can say they have been great. I've gotten to meet a group of awesome peeps, both the residents and the staff. I'm thankful that I'm able to stay as on-call status so I don't have to leave for good, and I can still see everyone! I've already picked up a couple shifts for the month.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Tomorrow morning when I wake up, I'll be ready to embark on my new adventure. I can't wait to meet the kids I'll be working with! I don't know what the age group will be just yet, as I had indicated I am open to working with any age based on my experience. I am also looking forward to meeting my coworkers. You can probably tell that meeting new people has always been an exciting part of entering a new workplace for me. </p>
<p dir="ltr">The next step of my journey will be working towards my certification to become a Behavior Technician. I will be completing a 40-hour online course. I plan to begin chipping away at it early on, and to complete it in a timely manner. I feel driven to work to my fullest potential!</p>
<p dir="ltr">I can't believe this day is finally almost here. A new chapter awaits!</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-89020090010485080402017-03-01T21:03:00.001-08:002017-03-01T21:03:40.243-08:00Dear Mom and Dad<p dir="ltr">Dear Mom and Dad,</p>
<p dir="ltr">Throughout my life, you have done so much for me. So much to support me, so much to help me, and so much to push me to be the best version of myself. For this, I thank you.</p>
<p dir="ltr">When I struggled with learning how to do things as a young child, you were always there to show me how. Whenever I've come across a problem, you've always given me the best advice on how to tackle it. Whenever I need to be kept in check, you're there to wake me up.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Looking back as an undiagnosed autistic, there are a couple things I wish you would have done differently. I wish the fact that I'm developmentally young for my age would have been embraced in my earlier years. I was asked to act in a way that didn't come naturally to me. I wish you would have realized that I wasn't like, and didn't have to be just like, my peers. That everyone develops at their own rate, and that that's ok.</p>
<p dir="ltr">I wish you'd have understood the fact that I take a little longer to process things. That rather than becoming angry or impatient with me, you'd have given me the time I needed to process instructions. That you'd have clarified them for me when I needed it.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Now let's get back to what I feel you've done RIGHT. The above items are the only two things that really stand out that I would have liked for you to have handled differently. There are a lot of things I have you to thank for!</p>
<p dir="ltr">Once I first suspected I was autistic, you had your reservations at first. You thought that there was nothing "wrong" with me (when, after all, autism isn't a defect at all, but rather a different operating system). However, you were willing to LISTEN. The more I researched, the more I saw traits in myself, and the more I educated you an autism and how it related to me, you began to understand.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Finally, when the time came to complete questionnaires for my assessment, you were there. You completed them to the best of your knowledge, about what I was like early on as well as in the present. After having submitted them to my psychologist and going through a series of interview-style appointments, I had my answer! I was indeed autistic. You helped me find the answers I so desperately sought. </p>
<p dir="ltr">While I may have been a bit misunderstood in my early life, you still stuck by my side. You may have not known why I was a little different from my peers, yet you still encouraged me to succeed. To this day, you always help me when I need it. You now realize that I'm taking life at my own pace, and you let me live it on my terms - not society's. You no longer push me to act differently from how I feel - you let me be ME. When I'm confused or misunderstand instructions, you no longer become frustrated with me, but rather recognize that I just need a little time to process. </p>
<p dir="ltr">What you might not realize is that these things are HUGE to me. I can't express enough how thankful I am that you've taken the time to understand me. I can be myself and not feel like I'm doing anything wrong. I can be true to myself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!</p>
<p dir="ltr">Love,</p>
<p dir="ltr">Sue :)</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-52994950943482352722017-01-25T23:43:00.001-08:002017-01-25T23:43:20.025-08:00An Answer to a Question on Quora<p dir="ltr">I stumbled upon a the following question on Quora:</p>
<p dir="ltr">What are the biggest regrets that people with ADD/ADHD have?</p>
<p dir="ltr">I like the way my response turned out, so I'd like to share it! :)</p>
<p dir="ltr">My only real regret is the fact that I didn't start receiving help earlier. That said, I have faith that everything happens for a reason, and if that means not getting a diagnosis until I was 25, well, then that was exactly when it was meant to happen.</p>
<p dir="ltr">I often wonder what life would have been like had a been diagnosed in, say, preschool when my traits were first VERY obvious. I should add now that I'm also diagnosed with autism (Level I or formerly known as Asperger’s), OCD and anxiety. The latter two diagnoses also came at 25, and the autism one not until I was 31. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Now, although I endured some struggles, I managed to come out pretty successful. I have a Bachelor's in Social Work and three jobs in human services. I don't yet live on my own, however it doesn't bother me that I'm not yet ready. One thing at a time. Besides, this just gives me more time to work, make money, and take life at my own pace.<br>
Had I been diagnosed earlier on, where would that leave me? Sure, I may have had an easier time with things, and known more about myself earlier on, however what if I just became another statistic? Another kid thrown into the special education program which is still in need of great reform today? I was in all mainstream classes, and demonstrated that I could handle them, given there were no diagnoses yet in sight. Had I been slapped with a label from the get go, perhaps my abilities would have been overshadowed by them (note: I don't like to look at my diagnoses as “labels” but rather “titles” as they have given me many answers at the times of diagnosis. However, in some cases, they are seen as only labels and people look for what they limit, rather than enable, in a person.) I've seen friends of mine go through the special education system. Friends who have outstanding levels of intellect and could easily have gotten a degree, however were set back because they were not awarded the same diploma as their peers. I feel that the system has failed them.</p>
<p dir="ltr">To reiterate my answer to the question, I feel that if there are any regrets I had, this may be the only one, but at the same time, I feel very fortunate to have gotten as far as I have. That combined with what I know know about myself, I now use to help others in similar situations :)<br></p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-91482258849718777112017-01-01T01:04:00.001-08:002017-01-01T01:04:30.640-08:00Happy New Year! :)<p dir="ltr">Hope everyone enjoyed ringing in the new year! I can check this holiday season off as a good one :)</p>
<p dir="ltr">I should start with a summary of what I did for Christmas Eve and Christmas. On Christmas Eve, my family and I went to mass and then enjoyed a pot roast dinner at my brother's house. We watched It's A Wonderful Life and relaxed for a while before going home to get a good night's sleep. </p>
<p dir="ltr">On Christmas morning, we woke up and enjoyed basking in the glow of the Christmas tree until my brother arrived around 10. We then ate breakfast and opened presents. Santa was good to me this year! My "big" gift had been Google Home which I had gotten just before Thanksgiving, and I received several other goodies: a Sonic shirt, autism necklace, Celtic mood ring, cash, gift cards, and a chameleon light that changes colors to match its surroundings.</p>
<p dir="ltr">After relaxing for a while, it was time for the traditional dinner at my grandma's house. We nommed on a delicious turkey dinner, followed by presents. I got some more gift cards, a few stuffed animals and a Samsung wireless charger for my phone. Next were some of my grandma's cookies and chatting amongst us. I spent the night at my grandma's as is tradition :)</p>
<p dir="ltr">I then had the "mega uber crazy super busy week." Not only did I work my usual full-time job, but I also worked two days at my new part-time job in their vacation camp program. The day shifts were back to back with the overnights, so I was a bit of a zombie :P It was fun, though. We took the kids bowling on Friday, and they had a blast! Saturday morning, I came home and slept like a baby.</p>
<p dir="ltr">For New Year's Eve, we went to my grandma's for snacks and lobster tails before heading to my brother's for chili and more snacks. I made my traditional Lit'l Smokies sausages wrapped in crescent rolls (pigs in blankets). Before we knew it, it was time to count down and ring in the new year! We relaxed and talked for a while, and then I went back to my grandma's, where I am writing this now, to spend the night again.</p>
<p dir="ltr">So what will this year bring? Hopefully good things. I have a good feeling about it. Resolutions are something I don't make, as I know I'll only be setting myself up for failure. I'd rather just focus on one day at a time, and if I decide I want to make any goals, I'll do them on my own timeline and in my own way. All I know is that life is pretty darn good as I know it, and if it ain't broke, don't fix it! Here's to a great year! :)</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-19349682203509313372016-11-23T18:39:00.001-08:002016-11-23T18:39:40.307-08:00Thankful <p dir="ltr">Of the many things in life I have to be thankful for, one that will always stand out is my autism diagnosis.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Imagine that you've spent your entire life being a little different from the rest. You try to click with others at a young age, but something just doesn't gel. You spend your teen years watching everyone else suddenly change and become interested in different things from you, and you can't wrap your head around it. You spend your 20s learning about yourself, yet there is still a missing piece.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Then you stumble upon autism. Not for the first time, as you've heard of it, and you THINK you know what it means. Then you are reintroduced to the concept after several years, but this time it has a whole new meaning for you. It describes so many of the things you've experienced throughout your life. It sounds like YOU.</p>
<p dir="ltr">You then do a lot of research, only to find that the more you delve into the topic, the more of yourself you see in it all. After a few years, you schedule that fateful appointment. You're almost positive you're autistic, but there's still that tiny glimmer of a doubt: what if it isn't autism, after all? You've incorporated it as part of your identity by this point.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Next come the appointments. The questionnaires. The interview with the psychologist. Finally, the day arrives. The day that decides whether or not everything you've learned about yourself is on point. You brace yourself for the answer. Are you autistic, or not? Your psychologist reviews the information, and finally...alas! He tells you that you present as someone on the autism spectrum!</p>
<p dir="ltr">You feel a sense of validation. Your suspicions have been confirmed. Everything you've come to know as a part of who you are HAS indeed been a part of you all along. Congratulations! You're autistic and now you have an explanation for your differences and own unique operating system. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Two years ago, this moment that I will never forget happened. For that I will be forever thankful. </p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-76495317123122256462016-11-04T21:38:00.001-07:002016-11-04T21:38:37.701-07:00One of the Best Weeks Ever<p dir="ltr">Well, it's been a heck of a week. I don't remember the last time I was this busy, yet had so much fun! I'm very grateful to have reached my dream of being a part of the organization I have wanted to for so long!</p>
<p dir="ltr">Today I had my driving test, which consisted of pulling into 3 parking spots. Easy peasy. Then I attended a training on the data entry system the agency utilizes. I am already pretty familiar with it, as I use it at my relief position already. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Then came the best part of the day: I got to meet the kids I'll be working with! They were super nice, and most of them were really bubbly! There were about 6 in the after school program today, and are middle school age, save for one who is about 7. They seem like a happy and fun bunch :) The other staff were very welcoming, too. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I really feel at home where I'm at. It's great to be working with a community of people with whom I am a member of. It's a wonderful feeling being both on the spectrum myself as well as knowing I'm helping others like me. It's like I can see things from both perspectives, and it's really cool! I look forward to being a member of the team!</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-3919236135214315562016-11-01T22:54:00.001-07:002016-11-04T21:38:47.680-07:00New Jobber!<p dir="ltr">Well, after much perseverance, I scored a job at my local autism agency! Yes, the one I attend Aspie group at :) I had a great feeling about it when I went through both of my interviews, and on the day after my second day interview, I got the call!</p>
<p dir="ltr">Today started training, which was fantastic. I really, REALLY love the philosophy of this agency, which is that autism is something to be celebrated rather than cured. If you know me, you know that this is HUGE in my book. The agency focuses on embracing people for who they were meant to be, and allowing their many gifts to shine. We had two trainers, one of them being the head of the training department. Remember that Asperger's presentation I did last summer? He was the one with whom I presented!</p>
<p dir="ltr">The training started with some fun exercises. Everyone was asked to introduce themselves and state their favorite food (mine being pizza, of course). We also broke down into groups and discussed what led us to seek a career in the field. I explained to the other two people in my circle how I first became interested in pursuing a position with people who have developmental disabilities. I mentioned that my best friend moved into a group home when she was 19, and that after hanging out at her house and getting a sense of the staff's duties, I learned it was something I'd love to do myself! I then went on to discuss how I've been in said field for 12 years now, and after learning I'm on the spectrum myself, I really have a passion for working with others on the spectrum. </p>
<p dir="ltr">We broke for dinner, and I went to the restaurant across the street from the office, which has great hot dogs and fries! Another girl from training happened to have the same idea, so we sat together. We had a nice chat. Once we got back, we did a really fun exercise in which we had to try to solve a word search while the lights in the room were flashing and kind of loud music was playing. To add to the challenge, the puzzle was in Dutch! I managed to find 3 words. The purpose of the exercise was to give us an example of what sensory overload feels like. This was even a good learning experience for me, because although I am autistic, sensory overload isn't something I really experience. I now will have this to keep in mind if a person with whom I am working is experiencing an overload. We also watched a film by Carly Fleischmann titled "Carla's Cafe" in which she gives a firsthand account of what life is like for her.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Lastly, we were given information about the different autistic traits, and talked about the fact that many people believe that vaccines cause autism. The head of the training department even told us that it has been proven that vaccines indeed do NOT cause autism, and described Dr. Andrew Wakefield (who made up the false claim) as a "bad man." I agreed wholeheartedly! :) He then stated that at this organization, they don't focus on what causes autism, which I also was very happy to hear. They instead focus on the individual themselves. I interjected with a few pieces of information and the fact I feel that everyone is born to be who they are for a reason. To make things a little interesting, we even had a fire drill! It was a good thing today happened to be a beautiful day. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I can't wait to go to training again tomorrow and Friday. I've always known that this is an agency with whom I've wanted to work, but I know feel that it's a definite that I'm in the right place! :)<br>
</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-87848669001159399572016-10-31T07:34:00.001-07:002016-10-31T07:34:56.154-07:00Happy Halloween!<p dir="ltr">What's everyone doing for Halloween? Well, to start the day off on a not-so-great note, my grandma and I went for blood work, which isn't at all an issue in itself...however, add to that the fact that after cleaning out the whole back of my car, my paper order was nowhere to be found. Thus, I wasn't able to get my blood work today. I'll have to call my doctor and have them fax the order over, as I have no clue where in the universe my order is. It's probably wherever my birth certificate is hiding. Gotta love having executive functioning deficits! </p>
<p dir="ltr">I'm now getting my PPD for my new job read, which I meant do do yesterday but totally forgot about until I glanced at my arm late last night. Luckily, I have until 11am today! After that, my grandma and I are going to enjoy a wonderful breakfast at Cracker Barrel :) I haven't been there in ages!</p>
<p dir="ltr">Next is a trip to Aldi, which I wasn't counting on, but it is what it is. Anyone who knows me knows how much I loathe grocery shopping, especially when I already have a million and one things to do. Then I'll squeeze a shower in the mix somewhere, and go to pick up and cash my check from my other relief job.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Last but not least, the fun will start! My BFF and I are going to grab dinner at Denny's, and then see Boo! A Madea Halloween! Afterwards, we will imbibe on plenty of candy and other munchies. It will be a fun time! :D</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-8921987827200714042016-09-05T13:26:00.001-07:002016-09-05T13:26:24.710-07:00The Dog Days of Summer<p dir="ltr">It's hard to believe that this summer has been flying by so fast! It has been a fulfilling and fun one, though. I've made sure to make the most of it, as always :)</p>
<p dir="ltr">I've gotten to the pool, albeit only a couple times. This is due to my heel, which continues to give me pain and prevents me from doing a whole lot. I found out a couple months ago that I most likely have torn ligaments with bursitis underneath. I go to see the orthopedic surgeon in October. Wish me luck!</p>
<p dir="ltr">My family has taken our boat out a good number of times. I've been to the Niagara River and Canandaigua. Cruising on the boat has always been a sort of therapy for me. There's something about plugging my headphones in, and the wind blowing against my face, complete with the occasional splash, that I find extremely calming. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I attended an Asperger's presentation by Rudy Simone last weekend. She was amazing, and gave a very clear glimpse into life as an Aspie. My parents really enjoyed it as well. I made a couple new friends, too!</p>
<p dir="ltr">One of said friends co-facilitates an Aspie group in Rochester called Square Pegs. I attended last Thursday, and it was well worth the hour and a half drive! We met at a restaurant called Lindburgers, which was amazing. I made some more new friends. Everyone was impressed that I came all the way from Buffalo!</p>
<p dir="ltr">Next Saturday will be the Rochester (yes, we like it there a lot) Clothesline Festival, which will have art vendors and musical performances. I will be working my other job next Sunday. The following weekend, my family is going away to lake Oneida for a long weekend! We will be taking the boat :)</p>
<p dir="ltr">It's safe to say that this summer was a good one. How has everyone else's been this year?</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-46240267321322633802016-05-16T18:51:00.001-07:002016-05-16T18:51:02.538-07:00Flap Away the Frustration!<p dir="ltr">One thing that I've learned in my research that is a hallmark autistic trait is hand flapping. It's actually been something I never realized I did gave much of a thought to doing...until recently. </p>
<p dir="ltr">After giving it some thought, I recalled that sometimes, while super SUPER stressed, I actually do flap my hands. It is a sort of outlet. It's almost as if the stress builds up, and flapping "releases" it. </p>
<p dir="ltr">This happened earlier today. I felt kind of cranky and on edge, but for no apparent reason. I felt as if I could just slam down or hit something, but instead, I flapped my hands in front of me. It helped! I immediately felt a little calmer. After heating up my pizza, I tried to pick it up when it was still too hot, sort of burning my finger. "Ouch!" I exclaimed and then started flapping again, as I tried to cool off my finger. It worked! I felt better and enjoyed my diet Dr. Pepper.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Now that I'm more conscious of this, and especially the fact that it works, I'll report to flapping away the next time I feel like punching something. It also helps to let out a "grrrr!" or an "eeeee!" As strange as it sounds, and probably looks, give it a try next time you feel compelled to break something. It just might work for you, too! :)</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10487984587689175738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5319240339041782268.post-18530398264810173402016-04-25T06:17:00.001-07:002016-04-25T06:17:41.800-07:00Learning You're On The Spectrum<p dir="ltr">At some point in every autistic's journey, okay, maybe not those who were diagnosed from a very young age, but rather those who flew under the radar for a long time, we have certain "light bulb" moments that lead us to presume we're on the spectrum. Maybe it's the fact we've always been a little bit "different." Perhaps we have become more aware of social struggles as time goes on. Whatever the case, I'd like to talk about my personal experience.</p>
<p dir="ltr">I didn't first hear of Asperger's until I was 22 and in my second to last year of college, when I'd learned of student's kids who had it. Other than the fact it sounded an awful lot like "asparagus" to me, I didn't give it much thought. I knew it was a form of autism, but that was about all I knew. I had the common misconception that it meant one was "in their own world" as that's what I had been fed by the world.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Fast forward about 4 years. I was working as a Supported Housing Specialist for the same agency I currently work for. I had always known I was different, but had attributed it to the fact that I was diagnosed with ADHD at 25. Something still seemed to set me apart from others, though. My literal thinking. The fact I couldn't read between the lines. I had this genuineness and innocence about me. Jokes often went right over my head.</p>
<p dir="ltr">I don't recall how it happened, but I somehow stumbled upon a blog by a girl with Asperger's. As I read her story, I had that "light bulb" moment and thought, "wow, I could have written this!" The author talked about her sensory experiences. I had always had sensory sensitivities for as long as I could remember. She talked about other things which I could totally relate to as well.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Taking what I now knew, I began to research Asperger's. After taking online quizzes, and looking at lists of female traits, I was convinced that I too, was an Aspie! I spent the next 5 years involved in the community and made several friends in Facebook communities. Though nothing was set in stone, I learned that it was okay to self-identify until I got the answers I was looking for.</p>
<p dir="ltr">When it finally became official, on March 19, 2014, the first thing I felt appropriate to do was to share my story with the world! The pieces of the puzzle finally fit together, hence the name of my blog, "The Pieces Fit!" I had validation. My suspicions were confirmed.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Whether you have been suspecting for a long time that something is a little different about you, or you learn something later on that gives you an "aha!" moment, we all take different paths down the road to self-discovery. It truly is one of the most rewarding experiences one can live!</p>
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